#DoesMarriageWork

When someone else knows about a particular marital issue more than yourself, there is a HUGE problem.

Trouble is not far from that union. In actual fact separation if not a bitter DIVORCE is speeding downhill, very fast to your exact location. Watch out.

It is quite sad to hear someone tell you something that you thought was just between the two of you! 

When someone mentions some words like “that isn’t how the story started,” yet, I, the spouse was there, right there in the hit of the moment and this person wasn’t, it’s a sad state of affairs. 

Trust isn’t just broken, but crushed. CRUSHED into some very fine powder that borders TREACHEROUS. Building it back to where it was isn’t easy, probably not even possible.

Be on the lookout. Do break the trust you purport to have. Well, when you really really have to talk to someone about your relationship, don’t share your story with anyone, not anyone who can blabber words out. Don’t, restrain yourself!

Confide in respectable and professional individuals who won’t slip up or share snippets of the story with you or others.  And to make it worse, tell you “do you really want to know the genesis of the story?” If they can speak up what was mentioned in confidence, what can’t they say about you?

Actually, this is purely HEARTBREAKING. How do you do that? HOW?

Safeguard TRUST.  It’s something that isn’t easily replaceable. Especially the things you consider petty.  Yeah, those petty, nonsensical matters that seem worthless. 

To you the stories you share may seem useless, or even worthless, however, those are the ones that erupt with a loud explosion of separation or divorce. Have a loyal support system. Confide in a safe space. Not everyone is happy for you and the success of your marriage.