Listen to her

She has a point. Yes, that lady you are living with as your WIFE, yes, the one of your youth as the Bible puts it, makes sense.

Learn to listen to her. If you do, your growth is guaranteed. Not only economically but also spiritually.

I have come to realize that my WIFE the one of my youth knows some aspects of my life much better than I do. 

There are so many instances she mentioned some things and being the man that I am, thought it best at the time to ignore her. But time, yes time, the thing she values, vindicated her.

We could disagree and sometimes argue vehemently about issues, spiritual, political, economical, relational, financial, leadership, and many many more.

Then after time had passed, my talk would change. My perspective would change and she would be like “haven’t I mentioned this before, ama, is it because it has to come from someone else for you to value it more?” Or “What did I tell you?” OR a phrase I never liked to hear, “I told you so.”

I attended a leadership training sometime last year. The nuggets I picked transformed my life. 

We (the WIFE of my youth and I) made a decision to invest in our future.  A few days before that I came to the house exited with so much energy. 

I shared with her all that I had picked as my take-home during the training.  As I was just about to finish reading from my notes, she stood up and said. “Haven’t I mentioned this before, ama it has to come from someone else for you to value it more.”

I looked at her, and deep, and within me, I wished to agree with her statement but the EGO encircling my heart, soul and mind couldn’t allow the easiest words “yes I do.”

Sometimes, issues crop up about people, friends, leaders etc. Being the man I am, I quickly take a side. I align with the ones I support more. I align with what the Bible states.

Nudging me from that state of mind isn’t easy. Once I decide to side with a friend, colleague, and anyone for that matter. It may have been difficult to shove me over and change my perspective.

Recently a very sensitive issue cropped up. I had taken a side in the past and couldn’t be moved. And as my brother would say “ I will stand with my wife no matter what.” I wouldn’t be budged.  

Then, I got unsolicited information from some quarters. I felt bad, really bad. Because the viewpoint I took then wasn’t based on facts but appearances. 

She kept on saying that I do not empathize. But according to me, the evidence wasn’t available. So, being the typical me, took a side. 

But listening to the WIFE of my youth, has transformed and enabled me to make better, rational, and enlightened decisions.

I would probably ignore her ways of handling issues, not intentionally though, sometimes just a reflex action. Only to find out later that she was absolutely right.  

Well, the good thing is that you are not late yet.

You can start today.

Listen to her, take her advice once in a while. 

You never know, she will also start listening to you. The HUSBAND of her youth.